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Mean Girl Alert! How To Spot A Frenemy

Mean Girl Alert! How To Spot A Frenemy

One of the most popular girls at school calls you her best friend, goes out shopping with you, and always keeps telling you what to do, what to eat, how to walk and how to live. Well, you are not alone! Welcome to the frenemy jungle! You will find many innocent girls like you surrounded by frenemies smirking behind their backs. Surely, she is popular, but because she is an enemy disguised as a friend, she is up to no good! You might at times just want to kill her because of her annoying habits, and finally end up looking for a criminal defense lawyer or a criminal defense attorney. However, killing her would not be a solution. You need to recognize her true face and save yourself from her.

With frenemies, it is always about them only. Typically, they are the best beings who define ‘me, myself and I’. They are selfish in their ways and would hurt you with their harsh comments. Even when she is complimenting you, she would take the whole praise towards herself. Many times she would say, “Oh you look so good, so much like me!” At other times, she would compliment your dress saying, “Oh what a pretty dress! I bought the same last week. It looks amazing on me!”

Do remember frenemies do not want you to be good at anything. For instance, when you come back to school after vacations, if you happen to increase some extra pounds, (which are apparent to nearly everybody at school), she would come and compliment you about how great you look. While everybody might be helping you out with how to lose weight, she will insist you on keeping the same kind of body structure. Similarly, if you do better than her at academics, she is not going to be very happy about it. Look for her facial gestures if your teacher complimented you on your test, or you are nominated as the best student of the year.

It is better not to share your personal stuff with such friends. If you share secrets with her, she might use the correct piece of information in such a wrong way that you cannot imagine. After all, she is a mean girl! Whatever you do, do not tell them your personal stuff, especially about your hook-ups or breakups. Because frenemies do not want to see you happy, they are not going to be quite delighted about your hookups. A behavior of such enemies in disguise would show up when you introduce your new hookup to her. She would pretend she likes the new boy you are dating; however, after a while, she would pull you towards a corner and say something like, “He looks like an idiot!”, or, “You can do better than that!”

Generally, frenemies are lonely. This is the reason why they act mean to get attention of other schoolmates. Apart from a few bunch of “replicates”, she would not have many friends. Once you fall in their jungle, you simply cannot tell them to leave, because that would make matters worse. The key is to remain somewhat non-descriptive with them. Do not talk much on telephone calls or at school. Eventually, they would move onto some other girl to fool.